Thursday Thoughts on Neglecting a Friendship
Many women (including myself) are so busy they don’t know if they are coming or going. I have a friend who once got on the parkway and drove in the wrong direction for ten miles before she realized she had turned the wrong way and was actually driving away from her destination.
When we are too busy for our own good we often do only the things we think we have to do. I hate to admit it but over the years I have neglected some friendships to the point where I eventually lost touch with the friend. Sometimes lost friendships can be found and repaired. Last year I found a sorority sister I hadn’t seen since college and we got together for homecoming at the college we attended. We had a great time and plan on going back again this year. (I had looked for her online with no luck but another college friend used different search engines than I did and she found her for me)
Several years ago I worked at a high school as a teacher in a new program. I didn’t know anything about the program, how it functioned, the paper work, recruitment, etc. If it hadn’t been for my assistant I would have gone under. Her name was Mahdavi and she is originally from India. I had so much fun learning about her culture, the different languages she speaks, and her family. We developed a friendship, shared lots of adventures, and then the job ended.
For awhile we talked but then we both got busy and even though she lives nearby, we didn’t see each other often. A few months ago one of the young men we both worked got his GED and there was a graduation ceremony for him and his fellow graduates. I encouraged him to call Mahdavi and invite her. He did. She came to the ceremony and our friendship took up where it left off. Yesterday we had lunch together and we are making plans to get together more often.
Think of lost friendships in your life. Are there some you have stored in a closet like hidden treasures.? If you have a lost friendship in your closet I encourage you to take it out, dust it off and give it a chance to shine again. You will be so glad you did.
Your story brought tears to my eyes. What a reminder of how fast time flies and the importance of keeping in touch! Blessings to you and thanks for writing. Teresa
I totally know what you are saying about friendships! We have to work at keeping those relationships alive and well. Thanks for sharing your story! I also have a friendship that I would LOVE to go back and change so the outcome would be different. It did teach me to be aware of keeping my friend relationships current and “checking in” from time to time if we can’t meet face to face. You know the saying…it’s takes a friend to be a friend!
Thanks,
Tina
I totally agree. I allowed this to happen with a dear friend. We were neighbors as newlyweds and went through our first pregnancies together. She was the kind of friend that things always picked up right where they left off despite the length of time we had between our visits. As our families grew and we lived miles apart somehow it got down to just Christmas cards each year, attending our children’s weddings, and very infrequent phone calls.
One day I received a call that she had passed away. She was far too young. It is times like that that you realize how fragile friendships and life are.