Mother’s Day Without Your Mother
Mother’s Day without your mother is hard.
May is a month of remembering for me. My dad died on May 1, 1995. Then there is Mother’s Day and Memorial Day.
While I love being a mother and nana, I will never stop missing my mother, and that makes Mother’s Day difficult. Over the years I have learned to appreciate the fact that I had a wonderful Christian mother, so many don’t. I celebrate the time we had together because as short as it was, it was still more years than many people have with their mothers.
If you are lucky enough to still have your mother, call her or go see her on Mother’s Day.
This is a picture of my mom and my dad during the first year of their marriage. She was 16 when she married daddy and 17 when I was born. She died in 1990 and Dad died in 1995. No matter how old you are when your parents die you still feel like an orphan. Oh how I miss them!
So for my NanaHood friends and family who have lost their moms, this poem is for you.
Loss of Mother Poem
Now that I am gone,
remember me with smiles and laughter.
And if you need to cry,
cry with your brother or sister
who walks in grief beside you.
And when you need me,
put your arms around anyone
and give to them what you need to give to me.
There are so many who need so much.
I want to leave you something —
something much better than words or sounds.
Look for me in the people I’ve known
or helped in some special way.
Let me live in your heart
as well as in your mind.
You can love me most
by letting your love reach out to our loved ones,
by embracing them and living in their love.
Love does not die, people do.
So, when all that’s left of me is love,
give me away as best you can.
~ Author unknown
I still have my 87 year old mother here on earth but dementia has taken the mother I knew and who knew me. Thanks for sharing the poem. It touched my heart.
Such a beautiful and meaningful poem!!
It touches me in a very special way.
Aunt Marya