By: Rita pacchiana

Rita pacchiana — Mon, 23 Apr 2012 06:37:51 +0000

I am a 59 year old omen who rwaised my three children.We are not working boyth my husband and I collect disabilty.We were enjoying our freedom .Then a call comes my youngest daughter has gone to jail and I was watching my 18 month old grandson.Well all our plans and our lives are now upside down.We love him to death but we are wondering if she gets five years how are we going to do it?It has ben a long time 21 yearsince I had a child this young.I hope i can find a support groupo to help us with this

By: jody taylor

jody taylor — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 04:49:23 +0000

I am 59 years old, retired and enjoying not working and enjoying my freedom when I get a call to take my 12 year old granddaughter. I get the call from her not my daughter. What it boils down to is my daughter chose her boyfriend over her own daughter. They have a son together and the boyfriend refused to be in the same room as my granddaughter. This jerk who emotionally abused my granddaughter, very controlling person didn’t like the fact that I would speak up the way they were treating her. Of course I was labeled the controlling mother and they said I meddled to much. Of course I did, when you see tears and fear in a child’s eyes.
I picked her up, then my daughter calls me and says she wants her to go live with her dad. A man who doesn’t work because of his mental problems brought on by drugs. She wanted that because she knew he couldn’t give her everything she wanted. she wanted to send her with someone who lived in a studio apartment paid for by social security. Not to mention he has 2 other kids by different woman. The first one he gave up parental rights and the other one, the girl’s family thought he was crazy so he has never seen this child.
I took my daughter and him to court because he wanted her. Of course the judge sided with me, Thank God.
Now she is having behavioral problems, she’s on medication, a decision that took me months to finally put her on them. She’s doing better on them. Her grades suck, she’s been before a judge at the age of 12 (while living with her mom for fighting at school). She got probation, community service and a fine.
Sometimes I want to give up on her, but where will she go. I only feel that way when she doesn’t do good in school and she gets so many referrals. I will not give up on her. If I do where will she become. I only feel that way I never tell her that.
I would like to start a support group here for grandparents raising grandchildren and have it more personnel. We could all meet and talk face to face. I was told by her school that so many grandparents are raising kids. I see some of them in wheelchairs, some way older then me, and some with multiple kids.
Whatever I have to offer to you or to anyone I would be more then happy to help.
Jody Taylor

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